Post by Gator on Feb 15, 2019 6:46:17 GMT -5
It gets confusing to me when I hear people say that you should always tell the truth or be who you are. Damn the torpedoes.
I have certain character traits, and ideals that go with me everywhere I go. I'm a believer, a pragmatist who adores ideals but rarely sees them come into fruition. I am kind and caring, but have a limit to that as well as a stubborn pride that is at the core. I'm funny and flirty when I want to be. I see beauty and grace in many things and look for it in both the dark and light. I usually find it also.
BUT!! When at work I discuss things that are related to my time spent and the little tasks I do; when I'm at school, I discuss the topics and ideals of the course/field; when I'm with family and friends I discuss our history and plans for the future; when I'm with a potential or actual lover I discuss sexuality. At times, the subject crosses into other relationships, because I studied human arts and have worked in health care.
BUT then it's not about ME. It's about theory and someone else's needs, not my own.
At times I come across discussions in adult chat rooms where someone says they have to lie or keep secrets or wear a mask. Kind of but not really. I'm a whole person, and I have no problem with people getting to know the real me, BUT there are roles I take and they define what part of me people see. I'm not a mystery or an enigma. I just have boundaries of who really needs to know what. It's not secrecy, it's PRIVACY.
Perhaps that changes for people who have fought to have rights or have had them taken away from them, and that may be what I'm missing. But I have to wonder, why does my boss at work need to know if I gave my lover a blow job or whipped his butt last night? Or whether my lover was a man or woman?
A past Prime Minister of Canada (Pierre Elliott Trudeau) once said that the country has no business, no right to know what goes on in the bedrooms of the people. If it's not illegal then BUTT OUT!!
Do you agree or not?
I have certain character traits, and ideals that go with me everywhere I go. I'm a believer, a pragmatist who adores ideals but rarely sees them come into fruition. I am kind and caring, but have a limit to that as well as a stubborn pride that is at the core. I'm funny and flirty when I want to be. I see beauty and grace in many things and look for it in both the dark and light. I usually find it also.
BUT!! When at work I discuss things that are related to my time spent and the little tasks I do; when I'm at school, I discuss the topics and ideals of the course/field; when I'm with family and friends I discuss our history and plans for the future; when I'm with a potential or actual lover I discuss sexuality. At times, the subject crosses into other relationships, because I studied human arts and have worked in health care.
BUT then it's not about ME. It's about theory and someone else's needs, not my own.
At times I come across discussions in adult chat rooms where someone says they have to lie or keep secrets or wear a mask. Kind of but not really. I'm a whole person, and I have no problem with people getting to know the real me, BUT there are roles I take and they define what part of me people see. I'm not a mystery or an enigma. I just have boundaries of who really needs to know what. It's not secrecy, it's PRIVACY.
Perhaps that changes for people who have fought to have rights or have had them taken away from them, and that may be what I'm missing. But I have to wonder, why does my boss at work need to know if I gave my lover a blow job or whipped his butt last night? Or whether my lover was a man or woman?
A past Prime Minister of Canada (Pierre Elliott Trudeau) once said that the country has no business, no right to know what goes on in the bedrooms of the people. If it's not illegal then BUTT OUT!!
Do you agree or not?